Concerned parents who are considering divorce should consider how a split will affect their children. Although divorce can be challenging for the whole family, children do have the capacity to be happy following a separation.
According to the author of “Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings,” parents should put their children’s needs first and follow the 7 C’s: competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping and control. Parents can help kids learn to cope with divorce in a healthy manner by learning these seven key skills. However, there are other helpful practices parents may implement in addition to instilling the 7 C’s.
Maintaining a routine can give children a better sense of control and help them feel more capable of handling the changes that happen during a divorce. In addition to maintaining a routine, parents should always reassure their kids that the divorce was not their fault. Furthermore, they should comfort the children by reminding them that they will remain safe and loved.
If a parent lives far away from their child, they should try to get creative in bonding. Watching a movie or reading the same book simultaneously may create opportunities for the parent to still have shared experiences despite the distance.
Parents who are going through a divorce should each consult their own lawyer. Contrary to what many couples believe, working with a lawyer does not mean divorce proceedings will automatically be hostile and contentious. In fact, an attorney can help parents work through child custody complexities and reach an agreement that works for both parties and, most importantly, supports the children’s best interest.